Communication After Divorce

You have your divorce decree in hand and you are finally free; you never have to deal with your ex again.  Or so you thought.  If you and your spouse have children together you will not be truly ‘free’ of your ex just because you are divorced.  Depressing, right?  Well, life after divorce doesn’t have to be.  In fact, ex-spouses who work with each other and not against each other will be happier in the long run.  More importantly, your children will be happier if they don’t see mom and dad constantly fighting.

Now, you’re thinking to yourself, hold on, wait a minute.  I got divorced because I couldn’t stand him/her and all we did was argue.  Why in the world would I want to continue to try to communicate with him/her?  The answer is, “To make your life easier.”

Constantly fighting and bickering with your ex-spouse will not get you anywhere; except maybe a few migraines and some missing hair.  Custody disputes and child support arguments are common after divorce and issues concerning them will continue to arise until, at the earliest, your children have graduated high school or turn 19.

Making an effort to get along with your ex regarding your children will make everyone happier and life easier.  You and your spouse are adults and should make every effort to set an example for your children to follow.  During and after your divorce your ex-spouse and you should have a conversation about what is working and what is not working for each of you.  Having this conversation without placing blame on either of you will make it much easier to communicate when an issue relating to child support or visitation does arise.  Simply put, being an adult and making the effort to get along for the good of your children will make everyone involved, your children included, happier in the long run.

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